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Baby crying

The only 'crying' a baby can do A means for babies to express themselves and appeal to others

The only "crying" a baby can doA means for babies to express
themselves and appeal to others

When a baby begins to cry, people around the baby try to somehow stop the crying. This is natural, but babies cry to begin with, and they communicate various things by crying. Before trying to make them stop crying, let's try to understand why they are crying.
Consider why babies cry. For babies, crying is a way to express themselves, to communicate their needs, to get exercise, and above all, crying is a sign of health. Crying is the only means by which babies can appeal to themselves. There are many reasons for crying, but if the cause of the crying is known, remove it and the crying will stop.

If the diaper is soiled, first look at the condition of the diaper when it cries, and if it is soiled, change it immediately. However, since modern disposable diapers are in a condition that does not make you feel sick even if they are soiled, you are less likely to cry because the diaper is soiled.
If they are hungry, they will also cry loudly. You can tell by the way he tries to suck up anything that touches his mouth.
And many children cry when they are sleepy, or when they feel sleepy. Let's put them in a condition to fall asleep.
After the age of three months, they cry spoiled tears. This is the cry of wanting to be held and bothered.

Other symptoms include crying violently, crying without change even when you try to soothe him, or pain or discomfort somewhere. Look for other physical symptoms such as fever, cough, runny nose, etc.
However, sometimes the crying does not stop even after removing various causes, or the crying continues without knowing the cause, but since babies have various feelings, it may be a good idea to quietly watch over them!

Many mothers have trouble with nighttime crying. I will talk more about nighttime crying at another time because it is a very deep subject.

Responding to crying nurtures the 'heart'

By responding to cryingA "heart" is nurtured

At first, all cries sound the same, but as you spend more time with them, if you listen carefully, you will begin to understand what they are trying to tell you. Unfortunately, fathers who work during the day and spend less time with their children than mothers do may not be able to discern the difference.

When you understand the meaning of the crying, respond to it with words and actions. For example, if the baby is crying because he/she is hungry, you should feed him/her breast milk or formula while saying, "You are hungry, aren't you? If she cannot respond immediately, say something like, "Wait a minute, I'm going to go to the bathroom. I'm going to the bathroom. Even babies who are initially fussy will eventually come to wait for you.

Humans are the only mammals with well-developed sensory organs that cannot walk during the first year of life. It is very important for them to communicate their intentions to their surroundings through crying, and for their surroundings to respond to them.
It is believed that this is because it is the time to form the most important "heart" of a human being, such as warmth and kindness toward oneself, and a sense of security and trust in others. Responding to crying is a way to nurture the "heart" through it.

It's natural for children to cry, but it's very important to be considerate of their surroundings

It is natural for children to cryConsideration for the surroundings is very important

The other day, a 7-8 month old child in a stroller and his mom got on the train. As soon as they got on the train, the child began to gag. On the train, people around us would look at the crying baby and mom, wondering what was wrong.

I agree with you, but I think that the crying of children is "too loud!" I also agree, but I think that people who get angry when a child cries, such as, "Shut up! Children are treasures," or "It's natural for children to cry. However, I think the attitude of the mother at that time is very important. If you see the mother saying, "I am sorry for disturbing you," and trying to calm the child by talking to him or her, no one will say such abusive words. But then, the mother is absorbed in her smartphone, not paying attention to her crying child. This is despite the fact that the child is crying harder and harder.

In fact, I wanted to fawn over my children.
I felt that such a mother might want to say, "Shut up," or something like that. I felt that this was a good thing. It is very important to be considerate to those around you, even in the most casual of situations.

The first year of life is nostalgic when it passes Pamper those around you and nurture them with your dad

The first year of life is nostalgic when it passesPamper those around you and nurture them with your dad

Mothers who usually spend 24 hours a day for their babies and cannot sleep continuously because they have to take care of their babies during the night are exhausted from working so hard on their own. Even small incidents can cause mothers to blame themselves, wondering if they have done a bad job in raising their babies.
At moms' meetings this time of year, we often hear comments like, "It's been so long since I've had coffee in a saucer" in front of a cup of coffee on a saucer. Moms have such a hectic time. Be pampered by those around you. Raise your children together with your dad. Listen to your mother as well as the childcare itself. If they can give you emotional support that they understand how hard it is for you, I think you will be able to do your best in raising your child. If that happens, there will be nothing to say.

The first year of a child's life may be difficult at the time, but once it passes, you will remember it fondly. Let's be big-hearted and say, "It's a baby's job to cry. You don't have to try to make them stop crying! You don't have to try to make her stop crying. If you still want her to stop crying, hold her in your arms and say, "It's okay! and smile and say, "It's okay!

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Yoko Nanbu, Midwife
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Midwife Yoko Nambu

After graduating from Tokyo Medical and Dental University School of Nursing and obtaining a national nursing license, and graduating from the Japanese Red Cross School of Midwifery and obtaining a national midwifery license, she worked as a midwife in the obstetrics and gynecology ward of Tokyo Medical and Dental University Hospital, attending over 300 births and picking up babies. After that, she established "Toraube Inc.", a consultation office mainly for women's body. As a woman's ally, she provides consultation for problems at all ages. She believes that women should understand their own body as their own. She believes that this will lead to the solution of all problems and deals with them on a daily basis.
Her hobbies include traveling with her husband, listening to movies and music, and playing healthy mahjong.

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