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Postpartum Mind and Body 1
Difficult for me to controlPostpartum Crisis
After 10 months of realizing a long-awaited pregnancy and carrying a large belly, you finally give birth to the baby you have been waiting for, and both mother and child are healthy, and you think, “Oh my goodness, finally! But there is no rest after the birth, and childcare begins as a matter of course.
If you cannot sleep well at night or day, or if your body is not feeling well after pregnancy, you may become frustrated and sometimes explode at the smallest things.
When irritability occurs after childbirth, it means that the body is unable to keep up with the changes in hormonal balance in the body, causing a variety of symptoms.
Often, when the body is in poor physical condition, the mind is also in a poor state of health.
The changes in the body caused by this hormonal balance are difficult to control.
Are you familiar with what is known as postpartum crisis in this context?
A postpartum crisis is a situation in which a wife (mother) falls into a state of crisis due to a sudden deterioration and fissure in the relationship between a couple that had been close due to changes in hormonal balance and child rearing after the birth of a child. The term “postpartum crisis” is used to describe this situation.
It has long been a widely known phenomenon that a couple's marriage rapidly deteriorates during the period of about two to three years after the wife gives birth. Specialists have long paid attention to this phenomenon and conducted research on it, focusing on problems on the mother's side and using terms such as “childcare neurosis” and “postpartum blues,” but the term “postpartum crisis” focuses on the couple.
Caused by a combination of several factorsCauses of Postpartum Crisis
Postpartum crisis is a phenomenon caused by a combination of several factors, but it is thought to be due to both physical and mental effects caused by changes in hormonal balance, poor physical condition, childcare fatigue, and lifestyle changes.
Another major factor in postpartum crisis is the wife's dissatisfaction with her husband's involvement in childcare and housework. Wives become frustrated with their husbands' lack of understanding and unwillingness to take an active role in childcare and housework.
As mothers, we tend to stay at home when we are busy with housework and childcare, or when we are tired from stress and lack of sleep, which makes it difficult to change our mood and increases our sense of loneliness, and other factors are involved.
Incidentally, it is also known from research that the hormone prolactin, which is produced by mothers to promote breast milk production, causes “hostile feelings.
I used to get annoyed at one word from my husband, which was nothing, and I couldn't stand it and argued with him, and I didn't even want him to touch me! I don't even want him to touch me! I don't even want him to touch me!
Even if you know in your head that you are somewhat sorry, etc., you can't actually say it in words, you don't feel very inclined to do so, and in fact, you are attacked by feelings of being uncomfortable when touched, and other phenomena occur.
These are caused by postnatal hormonal imbalance and emotional instability, which can affect anyone to varying degrees.
A condition similar to postpartum crisis is postpartum depression. It refers to symptoms such as childcare anxiety, stress, irritability, and lack of motivation.
Postpartum depression is a postpartum state of the disease depression and is not a marital problem.
Please do not try to solve the problem on your own, but see your doctor.
Now let us consider how postpartum crisis can be resolved.
Putting the blame on the husband, saying that it is his fault that this has happened, is not a solution to the problem.
It may be important to take this opportunity to review the couple's relationship, to deepen their relationship by remembering what a good relationship they had, and to look back and re-create their own attitudes.
This is an important opportunity to review the environment with children in the future.
Next time, let's focus on the husband's side, this time on his feelings and solutions.
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Midwife Yoko Nambu
After graduating from Tokyo Medical and Dental University School of Nursing and obtaining a national nursing license, and graduating from the Japanese Red Cross School of Midwifery and obtaining a national midwifery license, she worked as a midwife in the obstetrics and gynecology ward of Tokyo Medical and Dental University Hospital, attending over 300 births and picking up babies. After that, she established "Toraube Inc.", a consultation office mainly for women's body. As a woman's ally, she provides consultation for problems at all ages. She believes that women should understand their own body as their own. She believes that this will lead to the solution of all problems and deals with them on a daily basis.
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